How to Speak with your Teen about their Weight

Talking with your teenager about their weight can be a sensitive and challenging conversation, but it is also an important opportunity to promote their well-being and self-esteem. When approaching this topic, it’s essential to create a supportive and understanding environment, ensuring that your teen feels safe and not judged.

1. Choose the Right Time and Setting

Start by picking a quiet, comfortable time to have a private conversation. Make sure there are no distractions, such as phones or TV, and both of you are in a calm and receptive state of mind. A casual, non-confrontational atmosphere helps ease potential tension and opens the door for honest communication.

2. Be Empathetic and Non-Judgmental

Teenagers are often very self-conscious about their appearance, so it’s vital to approach the topic with sensitivity. Rather than focusing on the idea of "weight," approach the conversation from a health standpoint. Emphasize that you are concerned about their overall well-being rather than their appearance or numbers on a scale. Let them know you’re there to support them in living a healthier lifestyle, not to criticize or shame them. When taking them to the doctor, speak in terms of your concern about their “health” rather than their “weight.”

3. Avoid Negative Language

Avoid using hurtful or judgmental language, as this could damage their self-esteem and discourage them from discussing the issue openly. Stay away from phrases like “You need to lose weight” or “You’re getting too heavy.” Instead, frame the conversation around positive changes that can enhance their energy, mood, and future health.

4. Encourage Small, Achievable Goals

Rather than setting big, overwhelming goals, help your teenager make small, realistic changes. Discuss healthier eating habits and the importance of physical activity but let them have a voice in the process. It’s important for them to feel empowered and in control of the decisions affecting their health.

5. Offer Support and Understanding

Let your teenager know that you understand that lifestyle changes are difficult and that you are willing to support them in whatever way they need. Whether it’s cooking healthier meals together, going on walks, or simply being a cheerleader, make it clear that you’re in this together. Ask your teenager what they need from you- I am always pleasantly surprised how insightful my teenage-age patients are when coming up with strategies in which their family can help them achieve a healthier lifestyle.

By maintaining a supportive and empathetic approach, you can help your teenager navigate this journey in a way that fosters confidence and promotes a healthier lifestyle.